Friendship - The essence of Life.

Fortunately, my high spirit after my last article has remained intact (unlike what a few friends thought that it was impulsive and will soon wither off).After removing all negativities from life (deleting useless contacts from my mobile, removing not so good and back bitching friends from Orkut/Facebook, stopping to being negative and thinking I’m on the road to become a loser after all the hard work, etc ), I’ve once again begun to listen to my heart and my instincts like before as a result of which I feel I’ve just been reborn….a renaissance of life. My urge to winning, move ahead in life, chasing my goals is come back to its maximum… I feel such a stronger person now, optimistic, full of life still following my same old motto of living life to the fullest and enjoying every moment as it comes my way.

A thing I just can’t stop is a constant retrospection and introspection of my life, the fire that keeps me growing up as a person, teach new things and basically live every moment.. The people who have really brought out the best in me apart from my family, teachers have been my FRIENDS. I’ve been really blessed to have found a few real jewels, my true friends for life - in school, in junior college and now in my medical college……

I'm sure each of us meet a million people in our lifetime but how many of them fulfill our criteria of friendship ?Have you ever thought why friends come into our lives, some remain while a few walk away?....You might just find the answer in the next few lines to classify people we meet randomly……..

1)FRIENDS FOR A REASON– They comprise of the friends whom we meet for a short temporary phase of life ranging for a few minutes, hours, days or weeks. They are the people who fill the emptiness in life our lives by their presence. We feel their need and importance in our life, a need which we might have expressed and suddenly out of no where they enter our world like a GOD sent angel to assist us through our difficult time, guide us to the correct path and give us that extra support we need mentally, emotionally, spiritually and physically. They are there by your side just for the reason you needed them to be.
Once they have made all the difference to our lives, becoming the reason of our smile,the friendship abruptly comes to an end. Without any wrongdoing on our part they DO or SAY something which hurt us, many a time they simply choose to walk away wanting us to bear the burden of life on our own or reasons they know best. What is important for us is that they came when we really needed them, they’ve done their work, fulfilled our desires and now the time has come to move on….

2) FRIENDS FOR A SEASON- They are the friends who are by our side in the ups and downs that life takes us through. They play the role of a teacher and a guide in the time when the others are busy to care and it is really up to us to grow as a person we want ourselves to be. They are there to teach us to share, learn and prepare for things in the unseen future. In their presence, we experience peace, happiness, calmness and feeling of security that SOMEONE IS THERE…Our world begins to revolve around these people and they give us an unbelievable amount of joy….

3) FRIENDS FOR A LIFETIME- These are the friends the relationship with whom give us the lessons for a lifetime. They help us to lay down our very strong emotional foundation. We love the person as much as they love us. Our only job is to put the lessons that we had learned from them all this while knowing them to use in all the other relationships and areas of life....making the fruits of friendship sweeter lasting till time ceases to exist.

What is in our hands is to decide which one is it for the people we randomly meet in our life, then we’ll realize what is to be done for that person. .I've decided for myself,you make your call........

Reality Struck !

It’s a cold Sunday evening and I’m standing in my window enjoying the rains, the cool wind blowing,and the little drops of rain that fall on my face occasionally…..I feel very calm and happy today…..After a lot of time thinking, I have finally decided to shed the false mask that I was wearing. I cannot anymore hide the true self that I’m, stop myself from being the real person I’m at heart. I want the world to see the face I was hiding for so long. I want the pages of the story of my life to be open to all and not become a subject of mockery and discussion acting like a person I’m not…..Now I just want to be true to every moment of life that comes my way…..

After hearing about the compulsory rural posting policy ,even I was struck equally harder as any of my medical friends , but I have this habit of thinking too much about life…so off lately had been feeling negative about medicine seeing my friends in other streams earning big and quickly…..But just yesterday I was at the college hostel sitting with my friends talking about life…. surprisingly ,discussing stuff which really pumped me again about the career I’m in….The thought that touched me the most was ,“If ever I repent coming to medicine ,I should just wear my doctor’s white coat ,put a stethoscope around my neck , go to the EMS and come out…..the staring eyes of people ,their expectations building up would be enough for me to get back to reality and feel lucky that I’m here”.That was enough to give me a lot of positive thoughts.

We are where we are today because we’ve all worked day and night for it…slogged it out and finally realized our goal. Many of us will agree that we wanted to be a Doctor to realize the sheer joy of being GOD’S TOOL .If we all have faith in GOD and his actions, then why do we ask for some evidence? Let things move on their own pace, the secrets of life unfold on their own…be thankful to be what we are and what we have…How many of us do that? I remember a small story that I had read in some value education book many years ago.A man after death reaches heaven, roams around and sees three departments there.The first one was the PRAYER RECEIVING DEPARTMENT, very busy and full with voices of “Dear GOD,I want this, I want that….”.Second was the PRAYER ANSWERING DEPARTMENT, equally busy. The third one which he would have just missed in the corner had a single angel sitting there…bored having nothing to do…On enqUiring he found out that it was the THANKSGIVING DEPARTMENT…touched? Think about it…This is what we all do, forget to be thankful for what we have while running behind for things we don’t have.

REMEMBER - If you think you’ve missed out on life, I suggest you slow down…you need not run behind it thinking it’s music won’t last ….enjoy the journey of life…its not a race. Lets go slower, hearing the music of life before the song of our life is over….I now realize that there are two kinds of aspiring people on Earth….There are Astronomers and there are the Astronauts…..The astronomers are the ones who stand by their lonely window with a telescope to gaze at the stars…The astronauts are the ones who reach for the stars and leave their footprints….Until now, I’ve been an astronomer…but I don’t want to be one now…..There comes a time in your life when you realize that if you stand still ,you will remain at this point forever ,if you fall and stay down, life will pass you by….I now feel to begin life all over again.